It’s my space

Having heard the muttering voice in the last post would like to take adoption as a topic by itself

  There are different view points on the same… For people who are open to the concept they have crossed in themselves million dollar questions, dilemmas, the cause effect reasoning etc… Finally they decide to go with the inner voice to bring home their bundle of joy. It’s definitely a pertinent decision as it imbibes an inherent responsibility…This responsibility though comes under the roof of parenthood, it has its own flavours to offer…So if to explore what all would go in a couple’s mind before they decide to adopt , here are some questions to represent tat gamut list

• Is the decision impulsive or an inner desire?
• Is there a consensus in the thought process of the to-be mom and dad?
• How do they want to handle their defined society, relatives and friends?   (Amongst the list am sure the latter is the most easy to handle)
• If they have a biological child, how do they need to keep him /her prepared for the next entry?
• Will the other members staying in the same house as they do accept the entry ?
•  Will they shower the same love and affection?
•  Will they adopt the same carrot and stick policy?            
•  Will they extend the same liberty?
•  Will they over all be proud of the innocent nuances of the adopted kids’ accomplishments? as they would for any other little one in the family
•  Should they at any point of time let know about its roots to the adopted child?
• If yes, when do they unfold the stream of events?
• If no, and the child comes to know through some means? Will the child not feel let down?
• If yes, will not the child want to meet his/her biological parents?
• If yes , how do they handle it ?

 …… The list goes on …as it unfolds some other dimension while answering one iota of its million dollar questions’ reach…

 The analytical part of my brain has contributed to all these above questions… Some may have a vivid answer, some hazy solutions; some remain as questionable questions… Just like in any decision we cannot have a full proof surety, so is the same with adoption too…

 Day in and day out we do see number of orphanages reaching out to people in a social cause..The orphanages for the stranded ones are welcomable… An orphan child is in all ways a normal child having all small small desires…Small desires and small incidents make our lives in many ways…Most of us have experienced many a gestures that was so easily available in a platter

• Macho drives in the front seat of our dad’s bikes at our choice
• Tasty dishes of our choice.. (many a times I wonder why home food is much much tastier than hotel food , my mind says hygine , my heart says its got my moms love)
• Diwali celebrations with new clothes , sooper dooper crackers , wide array of sweets of our choice
• School of our parents choice forming the backbone of our growing up
• Career of our choice forming the basis of our bread and butter

The list of our choices has and will be endless as we obtain one and look for the other..Law of diminishing marginal utility does not seem to fully work in man’s needs..Our lives have been fully evolved with choices and dreams where there are muttering voices around us for being an orphan… Do we just end thanking God for what we are?

 Mandatory leave for adoptive parents?A recent article in Times

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/Bangalore/Adopting-Get-maternity-leave/articleshow/3401153.cms

 Couples who go with their inner desire need not necessarily answer all the probable maze of questions…Some may continue to be a mirage… The conviction of the inner self makes them take that mileage to make a difference.

 The tender voice of the child muttering its loneliness gets etched into those hearts that they take the decision to experience parenthood and expand the family tree’s branches.