It’s my space

Having heard the muttering voice in the last post would like to take adoption as a topic by itself

  There are different view points on the same… For people who are open to the concept they have crossed in themselves million dollar questions, dilemmas, the cause effect reasoning etc… Finally they decide to go with the inner voice to bring home their bundle of joy. It’s definitely a pertinent decision as it imbibes an inherent responsibility…This responsibility though comes under the roof of parenthood, it has its own flavours to offer…So if to explore what all would go in a couple’s mind before they decide to adopt , here are some questions to represent tat gamut list

• Is the decision impulsive or an inner desire?
• Is there a consensus in the thought process of the to-be mom and dad?
• How do they want to handle their defined society, relatives and friends?   (Amongst the list am sure the latter is the most easy to handle)
• If they have a biological child, how do they need to keep him /her prepared for the next entry?
• Will the other members staying in the same house as they do accept the entry ?
•  Will they shower the same love and affection?
•  Will they adopt the same carrot and stick policy?            
•  Will they extend the same liberty?
•  Will they over all be proud of the innocent nuances of the adopted kids’ accomplishments? as they would for any other little one in the family
•  Should they at any point of time let know about its roots to the adopted child?
• If yes, when do they unfold the stream of events?
• If no, and the child comes to know through some means? Will the child not feel let down?
• If yes, will not the child want to meet his/her biological parents?
• If yes , how do they handle it ?

 …… The list goes on …as it unfolds some other dimension while answering one iota of its million dollar questions’ reach…

 The analytical part of my brain has contributed to all these above questions… Some may have a vivid answer, some hazy solutions; some remain as questionable questions… Just like in any decision we cannot have a full proof surety, so is the same with adoption too…

 Day in and day out we do see number of orphanages reaching out to people in a social cause..The orphanages for the stranded ones are welcomable… An orphan child is in all ways a normal child having all small small desires…Small desires and small incidents make our lives in many ways…Most of us have experienced many a gestures that was so easily available in a platter

• Macho drives in the front seat of our dad’s bikes at our choice
• Tasty dishes of our choice.. (many a times I wonder why home food is much much tastier than hotel food , my mind says hygine , my heart says its got my moms love)
• Diwali celebrations with new clothes , sooper dooper crackers , wide array of sweets of our choice
• School of our parents choice forming the backbone of our growing up
• Career of our choice forming the basis of our bread and butter

The list of our choices has and will be endless as we obtain one and look for the other..Law of diminishing marginal utility does not seem to fully work in man’s needs..Our lives have been fully evolved with choices and dreams where there are muttering voices around us for being an orphan… Do we just end thanking God for what we are?

 Mandatory leave for adoptive parents?A recent article in Times

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/Bangalore/Adopting-Get-maternity-leave/articleshow/3401153.cms

 Couples who go with their inner desire need not necessarily answer all the probable maze of questions…Some may continue to be a mirage… The conviction of the inner self makes them take that mileage to make a difference.

 The tender voice of the child muttering its loneliness gets etched into those hearts that they take the decision to experience parenthood and expand the family tree’s branches.

Vasu talkies is now goin to step into its maiden journey for some love stats test

U may not be very romantic , U many not have fallen in love , U jus need to imagine …

Well in case u have a beloved then am sure it will bring more of smiles

There wld be some situations given , for which u need to click on your options ..

Every option wld have an interpretation

The interpretaions wld be in the fag end of the post . Pls be honest and dont check the interpretations before all ur choices have been made

Close ur eyes , sit back , relax for a moment .Just forget about assignments , projects , deadlines and work under any means for the time being . Yes now plunge into the world of imaginations

For ppl in love … Of course no imaginations of any fictitious character .. For ppl not yet trapped , am sure u can imagine one

Note down your options amongst the given choice ..There are just about 5 questions .After completing the entire list , check out the interpretations

Take a piece of paper to note down ..Well if you can remember them , then just simply go ahead

1 Imagine u r meeting ur beloved after a looooooong time at his /her place. The house can be reached through two means

a Short dirty route

b Long clean route

2 U have decided to buy ur beloved a bunch of roses

a 20 red roses

b 20 white roses

c 10 red and 10 white roses

For ppl who are scrolling down to see the answers …. Noooooo..hmmmmm..Wait na ..Just another 3 more

Tats like a gud reader

3 U reach ur beloved’s place and find the door opened

U will

a Call out for some one and then enter

b Just enter as it is after all ur beloved’s place

4 U meet ur beloved and want to give him /her a surprise .U want to hide the bunch of roses for him /her to check them out

U will

a Place it in the window sill

b Place it on the bed

Wow ..U were very patient ..Just not scrolled down to luk into the answers ..Tank u ..The last one and then goes the interpretations:-)

5 U have spent some quality time with your beloved and want to get back home 

U will

a Take a long clean route

b Take a short dirty route

Here goes the intrpretations of ur love stats in ur life:-)

Q1

a Short dirty route – U can easily fall into love

b Long clean route - Takes some time for u to fall into love

Q2

a 20 red roses – U love ur beloved more than she /he loving you

b 10 red roses / 10 white roses – Both love each other the same level

c 20 white roses – This person is a friend in ur life and u r not very sure to extend the relationship or not

Q3

a Place it on the window sill – U r not all tat very romantic

b Place it on the bed – U r very romantic

Q4

a Call out for some one and then enter – Family members views also important when important decicions are madeQ5

b Just enter as it is after all ur beloved’s place- Jus ur view and the view of ur beloved matters

a Take a long clean route – Love is just not another activity in ur life . U want to cherish those moments for some more time and bask in its warmth

b Take short dirty route – Well the thought wld be ” I was supposed to meet and ya I have met ..Now let me look into my next activity in the agenda “:-)

We used to have hymns to sing when we were in our school days .Ya innocence at his highest form … All together in the morning assembly with Sister Rosaline conducting the prayer session… Oiled hair, Two little ponnies, closed eyes, hands together and all of us would sing aloud Jus felt tats those days were simply so innocent and so scintillating

There was just this thought that wafted my mind now n hence this post

Our wallets can now hold much more than wat we had those days, yet tat happiness can never be surpassed by any means

This was the 1 st hym tat I learnt … I still can remember my music teacher singing tat tune. I don’t know where she is … But want to dedicate this to her who had made me sing for the 1 st time in my life

Made a novice, realize the power of music … I just could not get tat tune..So she used to take so much efforts to play the piano nnnnnnnn no of times, so that I can get tat tune …20 years have passed n still that tune has etched in my heart 

It goes like this …..

I just keep trusting my lord

As I walk along

I just keep trusting my lord

And He corrects me when I am wrong

Though the storm clouds darken the sky

Over the heavenly trail

I just keep trusting my lord

He will never fail

He is a faithful friend

Such a faithful friend

I can count on him

To the very end!!!

Ya.. Tat kindergarden hymn taught by my sweet teacher still in my ROM box of my memory …Her efforts were impeccable. The words were so simple and responsible for Faith to get inbuilt in my system

“Yes faith can move mountains” ..Tats wat she keeps saying and that’s what I always keep believing !!!

.Here is the reward tat I can remember what I learnt when I was a toddler 3 years old

Lets have now something on a lighter side Wat say ??

A small prayer by a guy who has been there in the career world for some time …

God,

Bestow me the strength to understand my boss

Shower me the love to forgive him

Bequeath me the patience to understand his actions

Give me the tolerance to sit up late in the nights

Grant me the fortitude to convince my wife that I wld be late

Let me have a magnanimous heart to smile at him

But God!!!

Please don’t present me that strength

If you give me that strength, I will simply break his skull 

Ya..We are just going to belong to the same genre of this guy in some time Lets see what more our prayers are going to be 

When there is a lot of pain that has been trapped inside you

When u feel that u have nothing to hold on tight

When U can see your life tumbling down the steps of expectations 

 When ur heart just cannot endure anything more

When u just don’t want the day to dawn

When u jus spend sleepless nights

When u jus seem to loose yourself

When there is agony and despair piercing the eyes

When there is a betrayal by your close one hitting you tight

When there is a feeling of confusion and isolation

Yes ….When u find yourself in a traumatic state

That would be the last straw for u to break

Why shouldn’t you

Cry your heart aloud and give vent to your feelings ??…Why should you think that shedding tears is being powerless or being timid …. Its just another unadulterated form of emotions …Yes  tat powerful element “ tears” when it flows down our cheeks , our hearts starts to feel light … It tries to put our hearts in a state of composure … It acts as a catalyst to visualize some ray of hope …  It does not reduce the pain, but makes you a little sane … 

Hope is a robin singing on a rainy day

For it hopes sun will shine some way

Waiting for the sun to become bright

Would give clarity in its light

All of us wld have this state some time in our lives .. We want something .. But it is either getting delayed or getting denied ..Yet we still feel hopefull tat we would get what we want …. The power of the sub conscious mind ….. Tat gut feel .. Its something which is so abstract and intangible …. It jus cannot be proved with a theorem or a converse ..U may witness things going against U , but there is some thing in u tat keeps sayin ..No … Its urs …

Do we trust tat Gut Feel or jus dont pay heed to what it says

This is a million dollar question which keeps cropping my mind and goes without an answer

Coz yes gut feels sometimes r right n sometimes may not b too !!! 

Most of the things that we desire in life is expensive … Yes ranging from a huge house with a lovely lawn ,brand new car ,  Wardrobe full of trendy clothes ,high salary packages , investments yielding high returns n the list goes on…..

Yes .. We do have the right to desire and we need to dream  to achieve ..We may achieve some of them fully , some partially and some may not even feature into our doctrine ..

Undisputed truth is tat the things tat really satisfy us are absolutely free

Love , laughter ,Friends and Close Ones in life:-)

The fact is diminishing marginal utility theory does not apply here … The more U get , more special u feel … U dont feel bored ..May b u will not feel its beauty and charm when U receive too much ..but will never feel bugged

Yes beautiful things are inexpensive in this world ..

A chat with ur friend after ages

A walk along the beach side

Morning Tea with  chirpy  birds and squirrels moving here n there

Falling asleep sans ac ,sans mattress ..on the floor in ur balcony with glittering stars above

Listening to ur fav no n happily singing along

Cuddling ur pillow n speaking hrs together to ur friend on phone

 All this is simply a bliss

Far too many times, we let
Unimportant things into our minds;
And then it’s usually too late
To see what made us blind.
Be sure that you appreciate
Everything you’ve got;
And be thankful for the little things
In life that mean a lot.

There was a thought tat struck me when I had met a couple when I was on a trip to Tripathi .

We had just finished the dharshan and was in a shop where there were a lot of stuffs for interior decorations … The stuffs looked cute and was also very exorbitant…. Realised tat the shop was only meant for Window shopping n there my eyes caught sight of a couple …. I was also accompanied by my cousin who immediately reacted sayin tat the two did not luk all tat very great ….Ya the man was jus the opposite of bein tall , dark n handsome …. He was short , bald n a lil plum too with his big eyes popping out from the glasses … The woman was far away from being called the actual pretty , elegant and cute kind of a  person …. Ya this wld b the reaction when any person actually looks at them …. This thought triggered of my cousin’s mind even more as jus beside them was this Perfect Made for Each Other couple , in looks……My cousin immediately reacted by sayin “ Life is unfair “ …. Why make a person luk too gud in all aspects n make the other one luk much below normal ….. Felt she was pretty rational in makin tat statement n moved forward … The first couple we met made a purchase of a huge article made of glass and were getting their bill paid …Window shopping from our side was getting a lil too borin and we too decided to  step out ….

After giving too much work to the grey cells in this couple comparative analysis , my cousin wanted me to pick up something to eat from a sweet shop nearby …There off I went to tat sweet shop n to my surprise found tat Short plump man with his wife in the shop ….The woman wanted Rasogullas and was waiting for the same like a small child waitin for its icecream …. The husband just then comes close by and says “ No rasogullas here”…. The disappointed woman without even realisin wat was happening dropped a packet from her hand … Cling Cling Cling Cling was the sound tat caught the attention of the folks there in the shop ….
Lot of glass pieces were found on the floor … Oops yes she had dropped tat huge glass article . The husband came close to her picked up patiently all the pieces around n placed them into a bin closeby.The woman did not know how to react and was jus completely passive ..After picking up all the glass pieces , the man comes and held her hands and immediately said lets go to another shop for rasogullas ….There was not a reaction  of “Cant U be a little more careful” or  “Gosh wat is this”…. I was actually a little moved lukin at tat …. It was a simple incident , but gave me an opportunity for introspection…

How many times have I shouted at my close ones, when I know the intention was not meant to be shouted at ….. Ya I do understand tat we many a times in the pretext of being in anger , just loose out words …..Not tat the man in the sweet shop was unhappy . It was just tat he chose not to show out his anger, especially when his wife herself was not in appreciation for her activities …..

Ya honestly felt tat what was exhibited was actual chemistry …..So what if they were not looking all that very great … Yet they had attributes of a very understanding couple …. What else is needed ????…. Kudos to the Rasagolla Couple……..I have put a picture of  cute looking Couple coz they were actually Cute …. Cute from within  )))))))))